Dirty Faith How to overcome Sexual Sin and Pornographic addiction

Final Cut: Part 1


Matthew 5:27-32


27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery : 28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. 29 And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out , and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish , and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell. 30 And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off , and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish , and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell. 31 It hath been said , Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: 32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery : and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery .


The ONLY grounds for divorce, that The Lord Jesus Christ tolerates in the scripture above is for the cause of "fornication". The ONLY exception for God accepting the process of divorce is fornication. At first glance this seems very simple and even obvious. But when we look at the CONTEXT of the exception and we look at the Greek, we will find out that The Lord was speaking on another level.


In versus 27-32, The Lord Jesus is speaking about LUST & UNFAITHFULNESS. The Lord expands the commandments "Thou Shalt Not Commit Adultery" & "Though Shalt not Covet Thy Neighbors Wife". The Law was just a shadow of things to come but the Rock of Offense (The Lord Jesus Christ) shows us the full meaning of Salvation. The Word of God clearly shows us that adultery goes further than just husband & wife.


Jeremiah 3:8 "And I saw , when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away , and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also."


Ezekiel 23:37 "That they have committed adultery , and blood is in their hands, and with their idols have they committed adultery , and have also caused their sons, whom they bare unto me, to pass for them through the fire, to devour them."


Hosea 4:14 "I will not punish your daughters when they commit whoredom , nor your spouses when they commit adultery : for themselves are separated with whores , and they sacrifice with harlots: therefore the people that doth not understand shall fall ."


So the underlining issues that Jesus deals with in these passage are: self-control, love, obedience, holiness, & manhood! Before we get back to Matthew 5, 32nd verse, lets read again:


Matthew 5:27-32


27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery : 28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. 29 And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out , and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish , and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell. 30 And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off , and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish , and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell. 31 It hath been said , Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: 32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery : and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery .


The Word of God clearly states the severity of committing adultery:


Leviticus 20:10 And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death ."


Proverbs 6:32 But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.


Jeremiah 29:22-23 And of them shall be taken up a curse by all the captivity of Judah which are in Babylon, saying , The LORD make thee like Zedekiah and like Ahab, whom the king of Babylon roasted in the fire; Because they have committed villany in Israel, and have committed adultery with their neighbours' wives, and have spoken lying words in my name, which I have not commanded them; even I know , and am a witness, saith the LORD.


The Lord Jesus Christ echoes what God already told the children of Israel in the past. That we will pay a heavy price for being unfaithful and following after our own lusts. There's no way to get around this fact! In Matthew 5, Jesus Christ shows us the root cause of adulterous activity. A man who purposes in his heart to lust freely without conviction has committed sin. A man who purposes in his heart to lust freely while giving himself excuses for his thoughts has committed the act. Even though this seems very extreme, Christ goes deeper and gets even more radical. The Lord goes on to tell us that only self inflicted "amputation", lameness, or impairment, can solve this issue of regressive and persistence lusting. Jesus does not mean physical "amputation" but social, cultural and psychological amputation/lameness. In modern day society, the word 'Lame' often describes something boring or non-interesting. The Lord tells us that we need to purposely make our lives a little less interesting in order to evade relapse:


  • Culturally amputating the ideas that cause us to continue the self destructive cycle.
  • Socially amputating some of the people and places that we love to frequent in order to get our fill of lust & pleasure.
  • Psychologically amputating our thoughts, replacing them with righteousness & fidelity.

God always gives us wise instruction because He knows and understands the consequences of sin. He does not want us to destroy ourselves, but (He) is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance. (2 Peter 3:9b)


Now lets revisit verse 32 of Matthew 5 and the ONLY divorce exception. In Verse 32 the Greek word for 'fornication' is 'porneia'. From the word 'Porneia' we get the English word: Pornography or Porn. So what does this mean? This means that from a marital and spiritual standpoint, pornography is grounds for divorce! We like to think of porn as being a "minor" transgression. But we see here that The Lord deals with pornography directly. It can no more be seen as just a dirty little secret or a tolerable habit or guilty pleasure or a man's prerogative! In the sight of God, a woman has the right to divorce a man over pornography. And if we remember Jeremiah 3:8, The LORD God has the right to give us a bill of divorce over pornography. This may be hard to absorb or accept, but keep reading because it gets worse. And since Jesus went to the root, let's continue to find out the truth about "porniea".


When a man views porn, he immediately objectifies the woman. When we objectify women we dehumanize them in our minds. These types of mentally damaging thoughts will lead to many types of sexual & moral distortions in our relationships with women as a whole (including wife's, daughters, aunts, mothers, etc.). James 1:14-15 can be summarized as follows: the lustful invitation of temptation engineers sin which in its completion transmits death to its host. At birth, death becomes the arch nemesis of every human being. And anytime that a mass murder, genocide, or holocaust get perpetrated the predecessor of the heinous act will always be the synthesis of dehumanization. Dehumanization starts with a half-truth. In the case of pornography, the half truth says: "I am a man and men are supposed to chase, fantasize, and lust after women". The only truthful part of the statement, "I am a man" does NOT validate the rest of the fallacy nor any of its resulting actions. The objectification of women as an expectation for men appears no where in Ancient Eastern culture. In the Word of God when we see this type of practice it is always followed up with death (see 2 Samuel chapters 11&12; Proverbs 7; Judges chapters 14-16). Most importantly, when we look at The King Jesus Christ we see a whole different mindset when it came to viewing women:


  • In Luke 13:10-17, we see what the end result of Jesus looking at a woman: Healing.
  • In John 4, we see Jesus looking at a woman and the end result: Salvation.
  • In Mark 5:24-34 we see Jesus looking at a woman and the end result: Deliverance.
  • In Matthew 15:21-28, we see Jesus looking at a woman and the end result: Life!
  • John 8:1-11, Jesus looks at the woman and the result: Light!
  • Mark 4:1-11, Jesus looks at the woman and the result is: Honor.
  • In John 19:25-27, we see Jesus looking at a woman and the end result being: Restoration.

We see nothing in the behavior of The Lord Jesus Christ where he looks at women in order to fulfill his own desires, lusts & pleasures. The Lord Jesus looks at women in order to help, heal and support. The use of terms like "eye candy", "centerfold", "bombshell" and "trophy" show the true intent behind most male "gawking" activity. Dehumanization inevitably leads to violence.


The word violence comes from the Latin 'violentia' which means impetuosity or rash impulsiveness/ not using logic or thinking. Acting without thinking invariably creates damage, injury, and distortion. Habitual pornographic activities cause psychological/spiritual violence upon our own minds which leads to violence towards the opposite sex. This in turn puts us on the wrong side of the issue with God. As God always sides with people and groups who are being oppressed (especially women & children ;Deuteronomy 10:18,Deuteronomy Chapter 26, Exodus 22:22, Matthew 23:14, Mark 12:40, Isaiah 10, Jeremiah 49). Spiritual pornography puts us in a perpetual state of disobedience because relationally it harms us and others, which means we cannot fulfill the 2nd great commandment: "Love your neighbor as you Love yourself". When we harm ourselves we don't love ourselves & it causes us to hurt our neighbors which means we break the commandment, which means we disobey God and cannot fulfill the 1st great commandment: "Love the LORD YOUR GOD all thy heart, soul, mind and strength."


Letting your mind and heart escape into rash and impulsive thoughts & actions will create a unchangeable mode inside you. In 1 Corinthians 5:1, the word 'Porneia" is used to mean "incest". Most of us would never think about committing incest. But when we get stuck in that unchangeable mode and act violently towards women, how can we stop ourselves when it comes to women in the Body of Christ. It is impossible to habitually lust, dehumanize & objectify women in the world and not be susceptible to the same mindset when encountering women who are members of the Body of Christ.


1 Timothy 5:1-2 "Rebuke not an elder, but intreat him as a father; and the younger men as brethren; The elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, with all purity..."


In the scripture above we are commanded to treat our fellow sisters in Christ as sisters ! Within the family of Christ when we lust after other women in the Body, the "porniea" mindset mutates incestuously. This may be an uncomfortable thought, but the scripture says "with ALL PURITY". We cannot edify nor help each other in the body if we are dealing with each other with ALL DIRTINESS. God designed every man with the ability to be able to defeat the pornographic mind set


Genesis 1:27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.


God created every man with the ability to make and change decisions based upon logic & morality. We were not created to follow after animalistic instincts nor were we created to destroy creation. Furthermore, as Holy Spirit-filled followers of Jesus Christ we ought to be bearing the fruit of the Spirit in our lives


Galatians 5:18-23 (NLT) "But when you are directed by the Holy Spirit, you are no longer subject to the law. When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, your lives will produce these evil results: adultery, impure thoughts, eagerness for lustful pleasure, idolatry, participation in demonic activities, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, divisions, the feeling that everyone is wrong except those in your own little group, envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other kinds of sin. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God. But when the Holy Spirit controls our lives, he will produce this kind of fruit in us: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Here there is no conflict with the law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have nailed the passions and desires of their sinful nature to his cross and crucified them there. If we are living now by the Holy Spirit, let us follow the Holy Spirit's leading in every part of our lives."


God also created men with the ability to withstand loneliness and inadequacy . These are the main emotional triggers that cause men to fall into a habitual cycle of pornography. We don't even have to get to the 3rd chapter of the Bible before we see God addressing & fixing these issues in man.


Genesis 2:18-25 "And the LORD God said , It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept : and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said , This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed."


Adam never complains about his loneliness nor does he seek out a solution for it. Adam is even oblivious to the fact that he needs a helper. His inadequacies do not cause him to lust and run after animals (humanizing them). His loneliness does not cause him to become violent towards creation. When we see man created by God, we don't see a woman until Adam yields himself to the will of The Lord. The LORD gave the diagnosis and the cure for the problem. But the cure for the problem is not an easy fix, an invasive procedure needs to be performed. Adam will have to sign on the dotted line, trust God and agree to lose a part of himself in the process. The LORD uses the part of Adam that he has to give up, in order to create the solution to his problem. Many times we will not find peace & victory until we are ready to let go of an uncompromising part of ourselves (Matthew 16:24, Mark 8:34, Luke 9:23, 2 Timothy 2:12-13). Adam had to take a risk and endure some pain in order to overcome his deficiency


Adam looks at the woman that The Lord made to help him, and he does not turn her into an object. Adam identifies the woman's appearance with his own; he even understands that his future is dependent on how he treats her. Adam & Eve brought sin to humanity and creation through the eating of the fruit. But through the Death & Resurrection of Jesus Christ and the power of The Holy Spirit: We are made free from sin, have become servants of God that bear living fruit unto holiness, and at the end receive everlasting life. My brothers, we are dead to the law through the Body of Christ, so that we might be raised up (alive) together from the dead with Christ, in order to bear lasting and sustainable fruit in our lives, honoring God the Father. (Romans 7:4; 6:22)


This study was not created to condemn but The LORD inspired it to encourage, empower and ignite! In my personal testimony I have been free from pornography for about 10 years. The LORD is not slack concerning His promises, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. We have to be honest about our struggles, and we also have to be honest about the VICTORY that we have in The LORD Jesus Christ. And we have to believe what The LORD said: The only way to overcome these lusts is through "Cutting Off". When we feel the urges we must trust in the LORD to fill our emptiness. But we must first take the steps in making sure that we are NOT "looking to Lust" and make the final cut.


Let us pray...........Heavenly Father, Thank You for your Life, Freedom, and Victory that you have given through Your Son Jesus Christ our LORD and through the power of Your Holy Spirit. LORD, I give you permission to make the cuts and perform surgery on the inside of my heart, mind, body, and eyes. O LORD, forgive me for the violence and violations that I have committed through disrespecting your Word and your creation. Help me, LORD Jesus to look at women the way YOU look at women. Cultivate self-control in me and don't lead me into temptation. Renew my mind O LORD, allow me to see when I am getting off track and give me courage to cut off, what I need to cut off! I confess my sin of lust & pornography and I believe that you will grow righteousness and faithfulness inside of my heart! Finish the work that you first started in me LORD! Help ALL of the young men that have read this, Guide them and unite their hearts to fear Your Name O' LORD God! Thank You for your Forgiveness! Thank You for your Cleansing Power! Thank You for your strength to fight! Thank you for Your Joy! Thank you for your Love! Thank You for the Victory! I am Clean! IN THE NAME OF THE ONLY KING, JESUS CHRIST OUR LORD!